Why I’ve been silent for the last 4 days…
Published: Sat, 05/06/17
I haven’t emailed in about 4 days now. (You might love that or you might be one of the people contacting me, concerned).
I’m okay – in fact, had a major breakthrough for my life that will help me both professionally and personally.
The two are so connected. If I have stuff going on in my personal life, I can still accomplish tasks but I won’t perform at my very best (like with me, for instance, I’ve always been far too shy to meet with marketers offline at seminars or even locally for lunch, etc.).
If my business world is in chaos, then it makes me irritable, worried and sad – and that can directly affect my family, so I always strive to make sure my work is done and their needs are taken care of.
As the year winds down and my second child goes on to adulthood, and my daughter begins spreading her wings to have a more fulfilled social life without “mom” tagging along, it’s made me more aware of who I am…or am not, in this case.
I wake up, drive my daughter to school, come home and work, pick her up, work and go to sleep. Yikes. I have no one but my kids and online friends. I am inside at home 24/7 unless I’m grocery shopping basically.
What am I working for aside from tuition for my kids?
I had to get this straightened out because it was BOTHERING me. I work so hard and I want to ENJOY life.
I used to be very confident and outgoing. Now, I’m mousy. Not just in real life but online, too. I know y’all may not see me that way but just about everything I do, I do it terrified. I want to have FUN again. Business should be a blast.
I saw a post about another huge marketing seminar that all my online friends are going to, and I felt sad because I never go join in. I saw a friend of mine talking about dating and I thought about how I’d turned down a date 2-3 times from one of my amazing exes who kept asking me out and I said no because I was too embarrassed by the weight (even though he’d seen me recently in pictures and didn’t care).
I got really whiny last week. Like annoyingly, unfriend me type whiny. I was so irritating I wanted to get away from mySELF! Why?
Well, in business, I can’t stand whiners. They’re all around us and lately, they’ve been as vocal with their whining as I was with mine. My opinion with business is - do it. Get it done. Fail. Fall flat on your face a few times to succeed. Work HARDer than you EVER have before. Figure it out and get it done.
But with “life” in general, I wasn’t doing that.
I had it backwards.
I kept thinking I had to heal my mindset to then take action to get my life back – get back into golf (I’m very good at it, and almost went on the LPGA), start dating again, meet up with friends of mine who say they miss me, get my body in toned and fit shape again, etc.
But really, I had to take action first to get the mindset right. That’s hard when you feel scared or like a loser at something.
So I joined a gym (took me a few days to not look to the ground) and started a weight loss transformation challenge. Had a guy walk out of his way to come tell me how beautiful my eyes were the other day – so uplifting.
I made a lunch date with a friend (she knows I’m nervous because we haven’t seen each other in 18 years) - and I reached out to the ex who had repeatedly asked me out (he may be dating someone now, not sure - but I put myself out there). I’m starting golfing again next week (even though I’ll probably whiff the ball, I have to start somewhere).
What I did with my personal life, you can do with your business life. Scared. Sad. Angry – it’s okay. I was, too. Do it anyway. How did I get myself there finally? Well, I’ll show you, but do NOT watch this video if bad language offends you because for me, when I go through growth like this, I have to release all that toxic mindset – and it’s not pretty.
It’s not something I’m proud of. It’s just what happened, so I warned the viewers and the ONLY reason I’m sharing it with you is because I had a TON of emails and PMs from people who saw it saying it shook THEM out of their comfort zone and helped them. So if it can help only a handful, it will be worth sharing:
https://www.facebook.com/100005468684911/videos/661429254049358/
Ever since then, I’ve been so peaceful, calm, happy and laughing. I’m EXCITED again about everything I’m doing – including my business life.
What I have coming up this week will be nerve-wracking yet fulfilling. Socialization, business ideas, travel plans possibly, my body getting back in shape (I have 124 pounds of muscle they said, so it’s time to burn the fat off and find my truly fit self again).
It’s all hard work. Just like your business is. It’s time consuming. There are days I don’t want to do it. But I am. Because if I want that different life, I’m going to have to do something about it. Even if I stall out. I’ll keep trying until I figure out the right combination for success.
Sorry for the babble. But I wanted to let you know what was happening.
Y’all have missed a few things but they’re really great money savers and still active here:
1. FREE PLR: Alice Seba is giving this Focus for Productivity PLR away for free here: https://www.diyplr.com/bundles/aff/go/TiffanyDow?i=353
2. I just bought - for myself - Barb Ling’s $3.77 Cheat Sheet for Making Money from PLR “Biz in a Box” offers. It’s a neat cheat sheet and my favorite part aside from the formatting cheats was the list of available BiBs on page 2: https://warriorplus.com/o2/a/pmbhg/0
3. When It Falls Apart: How to Cope When Everything Is Going Wrong (PLR by Justin Popovic). Well this one is a timely topic, right? LOL! It’s on sale here:
http://www.toolsformotivation.com/idevaffiliate/idevaffiliate.php?id=tiffany_65_3_66
Other videos I did on FB Live this week:
- Overcomplicated Mindsets: https://www.facebook.com/100005468684911/videos/661854090673541/
- Inspiration Someone Shared with Me: https://www.facebook.com/100005468684911/videos/661980850660865/
- Share Your Struggle for Loyalty and Trust: https://www.facebook.com/100005468684911/videos/660380687487548/
Okay that’s it for today. I just want to say – thank you. You guys have been there for me through my ups and downs and it helps. I hope you reach out to me too, when you need someone to shoulder you through the down times.
Tiff :)
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