Toxic to Our Community, 2 for $20 PLR Sale, Are You In Limbo?

Published: Thu, 01/11/18


Here in North Texas, we are waiting to see if Jack Frost is going to bless us with a little bit of snow and ice. My daughter's school let out early (from athletics) just in case he does, so I'm hoping it blasts us and school is closed tomorrow and we get a nice, long weekend of coziness. 

I had a bit of a rough day yesterday and I have to talk to y'all about it. It was upsetting and scary and angered me - and my kids. I'll tell you about that in a sec. 

2 for $20 PLR Sale

I have a 5-day sale running for my PLR Mini Mart that started today and will be ending on the 16th (and technically removed on the morning of the 17th). 

In the sale, you get ANY 2 PLR packs from my store for $20 - excluding the Total PLR Membership. 

That means you cold get two full content funnels for $20, mega packs, big bundles and more.  Check it out here:

http://s3.amazonaws.com/bigplrevent.com/2for20.html

Are You in Limbo?

This was pretty pathetic and I'll be the first to admit it. I was feeling blah lately. Not because anything's wrong - life's going just fine right now. But because I felt like I was in limbo between things being bad and things being really good. 

I actually talked to my life coach about this - we primarily discuss business goals and managing home/work life, etc. She's my venting space every other week. LOL! 

I realized I've rarely ever felt like this for any reasonable amount of time - just "there." I'm not worried or sad or freaking out about anything (which also means nothing's lighting a fire under my butt to be productive) and I'm not bouncing off the walls with excitement about what I'm working on. 

This is what my kids would call "first world problems." Nothing's wrong, and yet I'm uncomfortable. 

I told my coach that at least when I'm putting out fires, I have a specific problem to tackle and my energy level is up and I'm focused and a machine. When it's like it is now, I find myself more complacent and I have to now learn how to motivate myself when there's no URGENT REASON to. 

I know some of you have this problem - you're not in dire straits so there's nothing spurring you on to greatness. At the same time, it's not as satisfying when you're working on moving toward your goals because you can't immediately feel that relief of accomplishment (in this case, avoiding something bad). 

So this is my current dilemma - finding non urgent motivation. I know the logical stuff like a better life, vacations - whatever. I need something more immediate to make me sit down each day with enthusiasm and level up. 

I think I might come up with a game of sorts for myself - goals in game format where I'm challenging myself to accomplish certain things. I'm very competitive so I'd probably enjoy this. 

If you have any advice, let me know! 

Now, on to the ick...

Toxic to Our Community

As someone who leads in a niche, any niche, you will be contacted by your loyal buyers and by people who don't seem like it at first, but who have a tendency to become manipulative and even abusive to you - if you allow it. That last part is key.

As you may already know, there are some marketers with formidable boundaries who won't give ANY free help whatsoever - they'll pretty much charge you $7 just to say "hi." 

There are some of us who have a soft spot in our hearts for newbies and struggling individuals, and we go out of our way to help for free - going so far as to gift people courses or products, spend ample time offering guidance, and in some cases, even sending cash to people down on their luck who seem to be trying. 

Unfortunately, one of the people who came to me and extracted years of help and freebies off of me turned into a nightmare recently - so much so that I felt angered and scared of his behavior and my sons were livid and protective over me. 

What also came to light was that this person had scammed so many others - taken cash, laptops, tons of freebies from them, and more. Hours upon hours of free guidance (which, in essence, means you're stealing from the person helping you because that's time they could spend on their business), and even stole access sneakily to some paid products he wasn't supposed to have access to. 

It wasn't until we began sharing our stories with each other behind the scenes that we all realized what had happened, so for me personally, I ended contact with this person - unfriended, blocked, kicked off my list, and so on. He kept commenting on my public videos (which I would delete) and began stalking me - finding other ways to contact me, leaving me voice memos begging me to talk to him again, and promising he wouldn't approach me again if I'd just answer him and explain myself.

I didn't. Anyone acting like this does not deserve an explanation. I hoped it would be over. But he persisted even more - messaging me again, saying he knew he promised not to contact me but he just had to - and when told to leave me alone (in a much harsher manner than that), he then posted screenshots of the conversations I'd had with him advising him about business, etc., tagging dozens of marketers begging THEM to read through the messages and figure out why I won't speak to him. Utterly creepy.

He removed it when many marketers told him it was tasteless and that he shouldn't have posted it. 

The toxic nature of this individual - what he's done in terms of leeching off of our community - does real damage to the rest of you. Because for many, it will be the final straw - the lesson learned NOT to spend time and money helping others for free. Many saw his post and unfriended him because they found it too odd. 

Some unfortunately are still being bamboozled - believing he's just down on his luck and a poor fellow. 

As a marketer, be careful about being manipulated. Things aren't always the story being given to you. As a person ASKING for help, understand that sometimes many of us have been burned before so it's not as heartless as it may seem to get rejected for free assistance. Never, ever get demanding. 

As a woman who escaped an abusive situation - to have a "man" going out of his way to track me down to try to force conversations and demand answers - to the point where my family worries he might show up here - which would be very unwise - it's unsettling. Never act like that. Exit relationships gracefully when they go South. To do otherwise can ruin your reputation and/or make the other person feel uncomfortable. 

Tiff :)

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