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Published: Sat, 09/08/18


There are no promos or products in here - just some motivation sharing. 

Are you someone who keeps (maybe even for YEARS) trying to succeed and you're not seeing any significant progress? 

For years, I sat on the sidelines not becoming a marketer (staying stuck as a ghostwriter) because I just kept saying I couldn't figure it out. I couldn't do it.

And for decades (even worse), I have sat here complaining about my weight - maybe going up and down 5-10 pounds here and there, but nothing significant. 

And for years I swore I'd never forgive my ex or get to a point where I didn't hate him. I didn't even WANT to forgive or not hate him, in all honestly. 

Yet here I am...years later...

1. I'm a successful marketer. (Do y'all remember years ago when I had that $14k in a month challenge and I failed, but just barely? Well I made over $14 in the last 2 weeks. I broke through the obstacles). 

2. I'm losing significant weight with NO hardcore dieting or exercise. (Just finalized my Healthy Wage 6% weight loss bet today and won that challenge.)

3. I'm on good terms with my ex. No hate in my heart. (Odd fact: I am considering asking him to meet us on our family trip for dinner one night. Ack! LOL).

What happened that I turned all three things around?

I kept trying in the first two examples. And when an opportunity showed up on the third example, I didn't ignore it. I took advantage of it to change my life - even though it was terrifying and I was unsure of whether I was making the right choice. 

Let's discuss each one and how it can maybe help you with your journey to success. 

1. On the literal financial success example, I've had setbacks and failed a gazillion times. I've had to push past obstacles where I thought I'd have no chance to accomplish something, and find out that I could. I'm not a perfect marketer by any means. I don't have the technical skills. I don't attend seminars or events. I can't network with people like the masses do - bro this, bro that - I don't have it in me to utilize the tricks that build my list to 100,000 people because I just have a more low key way of doing business - not spammy or hyped. 

So it's taken longer. But it's been consistent. Once I got the hang of it, I never backed down. When you're doing this, understand you may not get the ball rolling the way you want it to for a week, a month, a year - or a decade. But if you keep trying (as long as you still have a job and can pay your bills), and truly working - not just buying everything and not implementing anything - you can eventually find your footing. 

I see people all the time who try a launch, sell about 20 copies of something, and give up. Well dang! You just sold more than 90% of the people who think they want to be marketers. So why not look at it and scale up and see what you did wrong and what could be better and build on it rather than give up?

Some people never invent new ways of profiting. They ONLY go off what's already known. I've made money with all sorts of new stuff. I was the first person to release an info product about Squidoo. I made tens of thousands of dollars on it. I was the only one I knew who auctioned content off back when I was ghostwriting. No PLR, but actual auctions of readymade content. Bidders would snap it up and I had instant money. Used a WordPress blog plugin to do it. I didn't know of anyone doing challenges the way I did them when I started it. Where the course isn't created ahead of time, but you do it along with me. 

All I knew was, I wanted to earn more. I never wanted to go back to a j-o-b and I didn't like all the methods already out there. I mentioned above that I've made over $14,000 in the past 2 weeks. Well that isn't a drop in the bucket compared to what some of these guys made - that's their daily earnings. But guess what? I'm excited and I'm still building my way up to more earnings. Always level up! Always. 

And if something falls through or a site changes something and I lose a portion of my income? Well I'll build it another way!

2. On weight: This, as I've told you, is my nemesis. I succeed in everything - but weight? Pffft! Fail. But you never see me quitting. I keep trying. I think for me, a lot of it had to do with letting go of emotional turmoil (which is example #3). 

But just like with financial success, I had to find MY WAY of doing it. I've done every diet you can imagine (even some crazy ones). I've exercised until my body felt like it was going to give out. 

Never worked long term.

I tried finding my why - my kids, my health, my mobility, my desire to look good in a  pair of jeans. LOL You name it. Nothing worked. I'd cry and gnash my teeth about the fact that if I couldn't even do it so I'd be around longer for my kids, then what would it take?

Well I kept looking and trying. I wasn't going to be a failure. Not forever. Someday I'd get it.

It's happening. It's in motion. I haven't achieved the ultimate success yet but I did win my bet today which means I've been consistent for 3 months. I'm on track for my 1 year bet, which is where I'll reach the 100 pound weight loss goal. 

Not sure if you can see a difference, but this is me before and after this challenge in the past 3 months - a 6% loss of weight:

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=923360717856209&set=a.260006794191608&type=3&theater

I feel better. I have to make things hurt for me to fight my way out. Aside from normal turmoil with fat, 2 things affected me seriously this time around and kept me pushing through. The first was going to Disney World. Having to be on that scooter in my 40s was humiliating. Not with other people - they were nice. I mean internal humiliation where you get angry at yourself because WTH am I doing staying obese and opting for a scooter when I could do what needed to be done and lose the freaking weight?

The other things was the Panic! At the Disco concert I took my daughter to just days after Disney. I had to sit down in some songs because I was out of breath and my knee hurt (happens when you have 270+ pounds of pressure on it). I hated that. We had floor seats and everyone around me is standing and there I am sitting because of my out of control eating. 

So instead of going home to eat like I used to, what did I do? First I bought a smaller concert t-shirt than what I was when I went. Then I literally went home THAT NIGHT and booked a trip to Austin in February when Panic is coming around for the second leg of the tour (and is about 4 hours away from me), and I got myself front row. Because I'll be damned if I'm going to sit through another of their concerts. I will keep losing weight with something to look forward to to push me. I should be 234 when they come back. I started out at 287.8. 

I'm also planning an incredible trip for June when my 1 year Healthy Wage challenge is up. I should have met my 100 pound weight loss goal by then and should be 185 pounds (I was 285 when I started on their site). So I want to do something very amazing for an active, mobile person. 

But guess what? I also know that I might slip up and gain here and there. But I know there's a way to do it that I like - mindful eating - hunger cues and nothing off limits. So I'll course correct. And my son Shawn asked when I'd start golfing with him. That gave me an idea for a fun golf trip with him. Stuff to plan! 

3. My ex - if God himself had come down to tell me that I would someday be on good terms, I wouldn't have believed it. I was that consumed. 

Until I saw an opportunity not to be. Now I had to be LOOKING for it - or at least OPEN to it. (Honestly when it presented itself, I was shaking in fear but I did it anyway - afraid). Many times, we're all blinded by emotions and strongly rooted beliefs that we ignore or argue with ourselves about the truth or about the possibilities. 

I could have hung onto my opinions and I would have missed out on something amazing: What it feels like to let go. I would have told you that was some kumbaya hippy stuff I didn't believe in if you asked me about it before. But now, having experienced it, I'll just say - I'm so glad I had the power and strength to crush my hate and open my life up to something amazing.

Do you know how good it feels to go about my day with no hate and fear anymore? It's incredible. Everyone used to say it was for me, but I couldn't grasp it. I wasn't ready. 

Basically...

So many times we adopt the victim, hopeless mindset. I HATE that. I don't do it in business, but I have done it with my weight and with my ex. We hang onto that blame because it feels SO good not putting the responsibility on ourselves. 

Do you do it?

If so, nobody can fix this for you. Nobody's going to apologize or make things right.

YOU have to push through and find what's going to work for you. And if you can't find it, keep trying. Never ever give up.

I'd rather go to my grave with everyone saying, "She kept trying" than "Oh poor Tiffany - she was a victim of blah blah blah." No. 

I also discovered what makes me propelled forward now is the prospect of living life and not being such a hermit. I'm still so shy. But going on vacations, attending concerts and winning money like it's a business is helping me. 

I don't know where I want my June vacation to be yet. I'm considering NYC or Hawaii. The sky's the limit. 

All I know is, I'm gonna be wearing my jeans and cowboy boots and a cute top and feeling Ah-mazing.

Now how can you take responsibility for what's holding you back (hint: it's yourself) and defeat it so you can move forward?

Tiff ;)

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